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5 Things You Should Never Do During a Divorce.

No one ever thinks it will happen to them, but the simple fact is that divorces happen all the time.  In fact, the average length of a marriage that ends in divorce is 8 years.  When going through, people often do and say things they would, under different circumstances, normally not do or say.  They may lash out at their former spouse, not be completely honest with their attorney, or commit a host of other missteps that can negatively affect their lives and the outcome of their divorce.  Take it from an experienced San Jose divorce lawyer, these are things you should never do during a divorce.  They only serve to make a bad situation worse. 

Don't Air Dirty Laundry on Social Media Sites

Bashing or bad mouthing your ex on facebook or twitter can lead to a host of unintended consequences.  Also, f you are hiding assets or other information from your spouse and talking about it on social media, it can be used against you in court. Don't testify against yourself, keep it classy on social media.

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Think With Your Head, Not Your Heart

Again, a divorce is a difficult and emotional experience.  It can be frustrating, infuriating, and devastating all at the same time.  When making decisions, try and leave emotion out of it and truly think logically.

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Stay Out Of Your Exes Email and Social Media Accounts

As tempting as it may be to snoop around and go through your former spouse's email, it is illegal and can be used against you in court.  If the court needs the information, it can get access to it.

Don't Be Unrealistic With Your Demands

It may be difficult to come to grips with, but the fact of the matter is that you simply can't get everything.  If you want to be treated fairly, you may have to compromise on some of the issues.  Figure out what is most important to you and make decisions accordingly.

Don't Hide Anything From Your Lawyer

This is a big one.  Even if you think it may be damaging or you are embarrassed by it, do not keep anything from your attorney.  They can't help you with what they don't know and being blindsided in negotiations or in court can be damaging to the outcome of your case.

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