Through the years, many families will go through ups and downs. Whether it be a move to a new town, a job loss, or a battle with a medical concern.
Recently, my family and I went through quite a traumatic experience. We were filled with shock, confusion, grief and ultimately loss.
My niece, Faith Joy, was born and to our surprise was struggling for her life. She came into the world with unexpected, but serious complications that unfortunately led to her passing after two short days of life.
Following her death, I found myself deeply saddened, but also inspired to become a more attentive and affectionate mother to my 1-year-old son.
I have realized that I can find joy in all the moments that once drove me crazy. I now also recognize moments that once seemed to pass me by unnoticed. I engage with him like I never have before.
It is unfortunate that sometimes it can take tragedy to bring these special moments to light.
I will be forever thankful to little Faith Joy for all the gentle reminders about life, motherhood, and love that she has left behind for me.
With this story in mind, I am curious … How do you find special moments to share with your child?
Thank you Los Gatos Patch Moms Council Co-Captain Chigiy Binell for asking a question that's in every parents' mind with the approaching Halloween candy trick-or-treating. What do you do with your kids' Halloween candy?
Here is what some of our moms had to say:
After a few days, I was so disgusted with the gluttony that I hid Saxon's candy in a top secret hiding place. Which I promptly forget. (Early onset of Alzheimer's?) We ransacked the house but seriously couldn't find it until Easter and by that time he had a whole new stash.
I help my kids go through their Halloween candy. I stick out my bottom lip and point at the snack size Reese cups. That's how I get one or two- if there are any.....I can't imagine taking, hiding, or stashing their Halloween candy? It's their booty...it's a tradition! It's one thing I don't monitor. If I was to tell them NOT to eat it- it would only make them try to eat it all and want it more. After 3 or 4 days of snacking, they really don't want to look at it anymore besides, by then all of the primo stuff has been eaten, and I just throw away the petrified Bazooka gum (after reading the comic,) and rock hard Milk Duds away. They usually get sick of eating their candy on their own before they consume enough of it to do them any harm. Confiscating their payload takes all of the fun out of the entire celebration. It's what Halloween is for IMHO. That, and dressing up as what EVER you want for one night of reckless sugar fueled abandon! I'm so happy that our town makes such a BIG deal about Halloween! YAY!"
I remember coming home from trick-or-treating and sorting all my candy in neat rows according to type. When I left to brush my teeth and came back, my dad would have eaten a few of my Snickers bars and would be grinning like the Cheshire cat. Now that I have my own kids, I don't sneak their candy, but I do accept any candy they want to give me (even if I don't like it ... then I just take it and throw it away). As far as their own consumption, I parcel out the candy a little at a time (usually two Fun Size pieces per day), until they've eaten all the good stuff or lose interest in it. I know they're still getting way too much sugar, but that's what we do. I've also tried letting them eat as much as they want on Halloween and then throwing or giving the rest away ... that didn't work for us. Sorry I'm not much help!